What you want to do does not matter…

So here is a hard lesson… what you want to do does not matter. Sorry, but it’s true. People live their lives filled with wants, dreams, and “someday”s that never actually get their time, energy, and focus. The simple truth is that the only thing that matters is what you decide to do.

Let’s get clear on the word “decide”. Webster offers a couple of definition options (and they pair really well here!): a) to make a FINAL choice; b) to select as a course of ACTION. (Personally, I think “decide” is the most powerful word in the language, but more on that later) Wanting to do something, if not irrelevant, is but step 1. There is enormous power, however, in deciding to do something, because only then do you have finality & action. In finality, the choice has been made. You have moved from the hypothetical to the specific, from “I want (hope, dream…)” to “I am”. This allows for focus and the setting aside of other options and distractions. The goal has been defined. In action, you have actual effort toward that end and, again, other options get set aside as you plan and work towards that goal. No matter how large or small the matter, it is only in deciding that you get to action, and only with action do you accomplish anything.

Take a hard look at your wants. Recognize that they will remain right where they are, unless you decide…

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